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May 28, 2022

You Don't Have To Be Perfect!


You don't have to be perfect. 

I'm going to throw my incredible wife under the bus a little bit here. 

Let me preface this with telling you I do this kind of stuff all of the time. I think most of us do...

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You don't have to be perfect. 

I'm going to throw my incredible wife under the bus a little bit here. 

Let me preface this with telling you I do this kind of stuff all of the time. I think most of us do.

It's that... striving for perfection. It's wanting to be perfect. 

Maybe it comes from expectations when we were children. Maybe it comes from expectations on jobs. 

But you don't have to be perfect. 

Here's a example. This last weekend, it was Peggy's birthday. We had an amazing day. It just went so well. She chose... we always choose for our birthdays, what we want to do. The other person graciously accepts that... doesn't argue... doesn't suggest anything else... just says that's wonderful. 

Peggy wanted to work in the yard for the afternoon. She had some plants, some things she wanted to get done. 

One of the things we were doing was removing some windows we had on top of some planters that we kind of use these little mini green houses. 

We removed those windows and she discovered, oh my gosh, we had 12 beautiful strawberry plants in there that we didn't know were in there... under all this overgrowth and junk.

So she had to spend a lot more of her day loving and nurturing and planting these strawberry bushes. She didn't get everything done she wanted to. So at one point, as we were nearing the end of the day, I asked her, was that the day you hoped it would be? 

She goes, oh my God, that day was so fantastic. I can't imagine a better day. We had a treat in the morning. We took a ride. We went to the beach, the dogs loved the beach. We played in the water. I came home, we had a beautiful breakfast. I worked all afternoon in the yard, which is one of my loves of my life. One of the things I always loved, I love to play with dirt.

Then came that statement... that I think many of us have, BUT... and the but was I didn't get everything done I wanted to.

I get that. I understand that. 

I think what we all need to do is to give up on perfection, see in a way that but diminished the day. When we do that... but I didn't get this done, but I didn't get that done, but I'd hoped to do this, but I collapsed for the afternoon.

I think we end up diminishing our accomplishments. 

So she didn't get the fuchsias planted. They're in buckets, they're in water. They'll be fine. 

We're going to have some amazing strawberries because she distributed these all over the yard and she loved them and she nursed them and she, she made sure they were healthy and she talked to them.

What an amazing day.

Why do we always have to qualify that with how we fell short of perfection?

When you strive for perfection it can have the negative effect that it can freeze us and make us not complete our tasks. It can make us diminish ourselves. It can make us think less of ourselves. We did really well, but...

I've done that in classes. I've said that was a really good class I taught, but if I had done A, B or C and said... or if I hadn't said one of my ridiculous things that I say sometimes... that'd be so much better. 

But the bottom line is, did I nourish people? Did I accomplish something? 

Did you accomplish something last time you throw in that but. But it wasn't good enough.

I believe it's always good enough, even if you collapsed and didn't complete anything you'd planned for the day, maybe it was good enough because that was the day you needed a day off. That day off revives your soul. Replenishes your energy and gives you that opportunity to come back even stronger the next day.

It's okay to want ourselves to do the best. It's okay to have a to-do list. But stop before you say, but, and think about what you did do. Celebrate that.

And you know what? 

That was perfect. 

That's today's message move well, stay healthy, be happy. Live every single fricking day with passion, ahhhhh yummy. Talk to you tomorrow.